Recently, I was sitting at work and I said to myself, "We actually run a Porsche blog as a couple...I have been talking more and more about the subject of "Porsche. I have not been particularly secretive about it before, but since the origin of my current work is in the Porsche blog, I have naturally come into contact with the topic more often.

Husband's freedom, wife's sense of freedom

At such times, quite often the person on the other end of the line is interested in me about my husband. And we often have this kind of exchange.

What does your husband drive?
Let's see...911, Boxster, Cayman..."

What? How many Porsches do you have?"
"...I think there are probably four of them now..."

Erm..! What does your husband do for a living?"
"Oh, I'm a business owner, or rather, I run an IT company.

"Wow, that's great...you're a celebrity..."
'No, no, no, my husband is a guy whose clothes are Uniqlo, he wears them until they're saggy, and he's all about the car. He's a free spirit, a car geek.I'm going touring for a bit."And then he would go away on a whim for a couple of nights."

I'm not sure how you can be OK with that, Mina.... I leave child-rearing to my wife during the week, so I have to put my family first on the weekends, or else I'd be in a heap of trouble. I envy your husband.

My husband is surrounded by many people who are also free spirits and Porsche lovers, so my senses have been numbed.I wonder if this is how it's going to be."I have been thinking that this is a little different from the public's image of the family.

However, I myself am not.I'm patient."in TokyoYou're pushing yourself too hard."There is no sense that this is the case at all.

In the first place, just because we are a couple doesn't mean we have to spend every weekend together, and we are both independent adults.Each of us is free to do what we want to do, and we are firmly connected at the foundation of our family.Ideally, it should feel like "I'm a good person.

I think that is the basis of our current relationship as a couple.

The importance of having compatible values

However, they do not live a totally disjointed life.

My husband eats dinner at home every day, and when I am absolutely unable to pick up our son from work, he picks him up from kindergarten instead. Most of our conversations are about cars, but we also have a good amount of conversation every day.

Also in my houseHatsumode at Kumano Nachi-taisha shrine (though I go there quite late in the year), and the 911DAYS driving event at Fuji Speedway.has become an annual family tradition, so the family always goes out together at this time.

We don't have any particular rules, but we seem to have a comfortable relationship with each other, somehow maintaining a sense of distance.

So, why are these relationships established, after all, in the first place?We married because our values match.This is a significant point.

My husband and I have always been "theI don't know if I'll ever get married.He lived his life thinking, "I'm not a good person. "I want to live a life where I can do what I want to do to the best of my ability. If marriage makes it impossible for me to do that, then I won't force myself to get married.The idea was that "the

Writing it down again like this, I wonder if I don't have the sensibilities of an average woman at all.... I grew up in a very normal family, so how did I come to have this way of thinking (laughs)?

Oh, by the way, when my husband introduces me to his sister-in-law,

It's very different," he said. For example, everyone is going to yoga class with their friends, but only one of them is learning yoga.'I want to learn to hula hoop!'and who would go to hula hoop lessons by himself."

He said.

(Laughs.) But I guess that means he's different (although he thinks he's perfectly normal).

So, how did we end up getting married?

I love my job so much, and I want to keep working hard!"
I'm not going to let you do that. If I'm the president, I have to make enough money to drive around in a bright red Porsche! Just do your best."

I would never want to get married and have an allowance."
I guess that's true, you earn your own money, why not spend it yourself?"

In their everyday conversations, they realized that they had similar values to each other, and they thought that if that was the case, well, they could enjoy each other's company even if they got married. I think it was because we both felt that we could enjoy each other's company even if we got married.

Also my husband from the beginning of our marriage,

I will not do any housework. But instead, I will spend my money on buying shortening appliances that will make housework easier, or on having a housekeeper come to the house to help me, so that I can reduce the burden of housework as much as possible. So I will earn more money than I do now, and I will work hard.

But I guess it must be very rare for a man to make such a declaration (laughs).

When we first got married, we sometimes felt and discussed small differences in values because we were still strangers. However, as we stayed together for a long time, we gradually reconciled our values, and now most of them seem to be in agreement with each other.

Now,

• Parenting Policy
• How to spend a day off
• money sense
• Thinking, "I want to be better."
• Basically, a place where people don't like to be grouped together.
• Part of what kind of car you like (laughs).

and other aspects of their lives, including their priorities and what they value in life are becoming similar. Also,Even though my husband buys and changes cars more and more, his enjoyment of cars motivates him and actually creates tangible resultsGiven that, on the contrary, I think it would be a good idea to buy more and more cars.

And then...The more freedom my husband gives me, the more I can take the big leap and challenge myself in my life.So, I hope that we can continue to enjoy and grow with each other in this kind of relationship.

Having similar values to each other may be the key to a comfortable relationship as a couple or family.
They cherish their freedom and enjoy doing what each wants to do, but at the same time, they are firmly connected by a relationship of trust at the core.

I hope we can continue such a form of marriage in the future.