You're a "fry up."

The other day, a friend of 20 years, whom I have not seen in a long time, said this to me.

Mina-chan is a total "upchuck."

And. ."No, no, not at all.I responded, "I'm sorry, but it may seem that way from an objective point of view.

I met my husband 10 years ago, when he was just a couple of years into his business and his car was a used old BMW 318i!(W had a couple of times when the engine wouldn't start). The office was a rented corner of a senior's office, and he rode his bicycle to work every day. "Car-Loving Husband Bikes to WorkI can't believe it now.

Time passed from there... the company's office became bigger and better located, and I had a few Porsches at home... well, that's when my friend said, "Mina-chan is an "upchuck.He would say, "I'm not sure I'm going to be able to do that.

However, I am not an "upchuck". I am not saying this out of fear, but I really am not an "upchinko" (-_-).

When I hear the word "akeman", the first thing that comes to mind is

Support your husband, praise him, take care of his health, endure hard times together, always encourage him, and lead him to success."

and such a woman, but unfortunately, I have not been able to do any of those things.

My husband told me, "I don't need breakfast, just a rice ball.I took his words to heart, and even now I make only one onigiri in the morning, and if I had to, I don't even make onigiri on my days off. Looking back on my married life, I don't remember encouraging my husband or supporting him in any worthwhile way.

Even I, who at one time was a "Support your husband, be a good wife!There was a time when I would get excited and make lunch boxes for lunch and bake salmon and eggs for breakfast, but after about three months, I got tired of it and started to think, "I'm not going to be able to do that.Oh no, being a good wife is not for me.I thought, "I'm not going to give up.

Writing this makes me feel like an incredibly bad wife (laughs).

More important than being an uphill battle

When a friend of mine called me an "ageman," I searched for this keyword on the Internet and found the followingLearn how to be an ageman and become the woman your boyfriend loves!"6 ____ to make your boyfriend's luck.I was surprised at the number of "how-to" articles such as this one. Is this a word that is of such high interest to women around the world?

But on the other hand.I felt a little uncomfortable with those articles.Because I'm not a

Instead of trying so hard to be a "pussy," it's better to use your energy to meet men who are more likely to be successful in the future.

Because I think it is.

So, the following is a completely personal view, not based on data, but just a story that I feel based on looking at me and my surroundings, so I'll just say, "This is the way to think about it.We hope you will read it with a "yes" or "no" degree of understanding.

Even if a woman tries her best to be a "gay man," it is not enough for men to be "gay" in the first place.No, I don't want to work that hard, and I'm fine the way I am.If he is a "yes" person, it is difficult to make the man successful. Even if it were possible, it would take a lot of patience, determination, and time on the part of the woman.

Also, if a woman tries too hard, she may expect too much from her partner and demand too much in return.I do so much for you, why don't you try harder!I feel that both parties will suffer as a result of the frustration of "I'm not sure I can do this.

Just as a peach seed produces a peach tree and an apple seed produces an apple tree, it is impossible to say to a peach seed, "Be an apple!(The analogy made it even harder to understand.), ,

First of all, we must find the "I want to succeed, I want to be better.I think it is important to look for a man who has the desire to "get it right" and is steadily taking action to achieve this goal.

To meet successful men

."So how can we meet such men?"

The easiest and most likely way to do that is to

"I have to be up there myself."

I believe that this is the reason why people of similar wavelengths and values attract each other. As they say, like attracts like, those who share similar wavelengths and values attract each other, regardless of gender. Therefore, in order to meet a man who is motivated to succeed, I think it is quicker to aim higher as well.

However, "aiming for the top" here means nothing."I'm going to get a promotion at my company," "I'm going to start my own business."I don't mean to say that it's all aboutAct with a desire to grow at any age.That is to say.

I'm not sure if I can do it, and I'm worried about it, but I'll be brave and give it a try.Aiming up in the sense of living life greedily.".

And as we continue to meet with and connect with these people, the people we meet and the people we are introduced to naturally change.

It takes courage at first to change the environment you were in, but if you keep at itIt would also increase the likelihood of meeting a successful man in the future.

And, before getting married, we can understand firsthand that a person who achieves his or her goals is a person who thinks and acts in such a way.

And best of all, even if it didn't lead to marriage.It's a good hedge against risk in life by increasing my own chances of success (laughs).

My husband and I

When I talk to women about these things, they say, "No, but a gruff woman like that is not popular.or "Men still like feminine people, so they delay their marriages.It might be said, "I'm not sure I can say that," but that is not generally the case.

I didn't take data, but it's just the way I've been around.Women who want to move upIn their case, they are supple, strong, warm, and very attractive, and many of them have found wonderful partners who are actually a good match for them.(Of course, I know many men like someone feminine and healthy.)

To use my own example, before I started my own business, I was completely unattractive (explosion), and when I talked about my work, I said, "You know what?Wow, that's great... I must really love my job..."You're a woman and you're thinking of starting a business... seriously...!I was often clearly donned with "I'm not a good person," he said.

However, once I started my own business and the people I met changed, the "biggest" and "last" period of my life came.

So far, they've been dong it, but on the contrary, they've been saying, "We're not going toI love a woman who works hard."Independence is good.I received more and more positive invitations. Sadly, however, at the time, I was not aRunning and growing a start-up companyI was so desperate to "get it right" that I turned down almost all invitations, and on my days off, all I did was work.

Oh my god...(T_T)w

But then I met my husband at a work gathering, and for some reason I wanted to see him again, so I invited him to join me and we talked a lot.We only have one life, and whether we get married or not, we both want to do what we want to do to the best of our ability.They hit it off and ended up getting married because they shared the same values: "I am a good person, and I am a good person.

We have been married for almost 7 years now and my husband almost never works at home and only occasionally talks a little bit about work. Most of the time I only see him watching car youtube, talking about cars, or riding in his car, but he seems to be working very hard in places where I can't see him.（That's a rude thing to say.)And now.

And I have done nothing in particular during that time. ...I mean, I've been struggling with my own company, childcare, blogging, etc.Time passed without me even having time to think about becoming an "akemian.

However, after watching my husband for seven years, I think that although he is not the type to always talk passionately about his dreams and ideals, he has never set a ceiling on his life.I want to go higher and see a world I don't know.I think that even if he had not married me, he would have a good environment now, because he is a person of curiosity and constant action.